Have you ever found yourself glad when your husband was exposed as being wrong about something, especially when it was in front of your family and friends? Like you've finally been vindicated? Have you ever found yourself making jokes in front of those same family and friends at your husband's expense? Did it seem, at the time, that everyone was having a great time, maybe even your husband was laughing? But when you caught your husband's eye, you saw pain and hurt?
This is not the love nature of God. You can see in our main text, 1 Corinthians 13:6 that love "does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail." We cut our husband down at the knees by making fun of him and magnifying his faults, particularly in front of others. You are inviting others to have this negative thought as the last thing they think about your husband. Instead, we need to be infusing their thoughts with all the positive, wonderful things about our husbands. Lifting them up and even saying nice things about him that maybe we haven't seen in years or have never seen. Not lying, but confessing those wonderful things and allowing them to manifest in him. Our words are so powerful, they cause those things which are not, to be. The more we say them, the more we believe them, the more they become reality. Good or bad, this is a spiritual law. Let's look at Mark 11:23-24 (Amp)
Truly I tell you, whoever says to this mountain, be lifted up and thrown into the sea! and does not doubt at all in his heart but believes that what he says will take place, it will be done for him. For this reason I am telling you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe (trust and be confident) that it is granted to you, and you will [get it].
And I will give you another scripture as well. 1John 5:14-15 (Amp.):
14And this is the confidence (the assurance, the privilege of boldness) which we have in Him: [we are sure] that if we ask anything (make any request) according to His will (in agreement with His own plan), He listens to and hears us, 15and if (since) we [positively] know that He listens to us in whatever we ask, we also know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that we have [granted us as our present possessions] the requests made of Him.
This belongs to us. What we say with our mouths is critical.
Now look at James 3:3-5 (Amp).
3If we set bits in the horses' mouths to make them obey us, we can turn their whole bodies about. 4Likewise, look at the ships; though they are so great and are driven by rough winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the impulse of the helmsman determines. 5Even so the tongue is a little member, and it can boast of great things. See how much wood or how great a forest a tiny spark can set ablaze!
With our mouth we can create greatness or we can create destruction. James 3:9-10 goes on to say "With it (our mouth) we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse men who were made in God's likeness! Out of the same mouth come forth blessing and cursing. These things, my brethern, ought not to be so."
Rejoicing at injustice is cursing and then we go to church and praise God. We cry and ask or even beg for help but go home and go right back to what we were doing: cursing our husband.
What we speak will bring blessing or cursing. Stop confessing that your husband is cursed by rejoicing at his failures. Going back to 1Corinthians 13:6, "[Love] does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail." Right and truth will prevail when you call start speaking it out. How do you do that when you are bombarded with thoughts of how awful your marriage is or your husband or all the suffered wrongs you have faced? Let's look at Phillipians 4:8:
For the rest , brethern, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and wiegh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them].
So if ever we were to keep score in our marriage, it would be to keep score of all the lovely, kind and worthy of praise things in life, not the failures and injustices.
How can we continue to think on failures, weaknesses and mistakes of our husband when we are only caught up thinking on things that are pure, right, lovely, etc.? How do you want your husband to be? Speak out those things continually and earnestly believing that God will fulfill those things because you spoke them, believe them and earnestly believe they are true.
Here are a few examples of what we should be saying about our husband (check out November 2011 blog "Confessions Over Your Spouse" for more examples):
"My husband desires to be with me and the family. He loves to be a help in the house."
"My husband is strengthened with all might unto all patience, endurance and joy.” (Col. 1:11)
"My husband stands perfect and complete in all the will of God.” (Col 4:12)
“Christ is glorified in my husband.” (2Thes.1:12)
The Word is the ultimate Good Report! Speak it over your husband at every opportunity and even in front of others. They will eventually start agreeing with you and the positive report will now be the last thing they hear about your husband. How things will start to turn around for you!
Thank the Father that the Word is being done in your husband’s life. It's not “magic”. There is greater power in the Word than in any magic show or worldly thing. When you speak the Word over your husband, that power becomes available to him to receive and to do a work in him. Hallelujah!
© 2011 Michelle Serna
