Do you tolerate complete strangers being rude to you or your family? I know I don’t. How about if your kids are rude to you? You better not tolerate it or you will have a heap of trouble as they grow older.
How is it then we feel perfectly okay with being rude to our husband? Verse 5 says love “is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly.
Look up "rude" in the dictionary and you find: disrespectful, offensive, bad-mannered and vulgar. Now ask yourself if you would like others to be disrespectful, offensive, bad-mannered and vulgar to you. I know, I know, it sneaks up on you. Certainly you did not attract your husband by being all these things. Now we just have to "catch" ourselves in the act and ask for the help of the Holy Spirit to keep you from saying the first rude thing that comes to your mind.
"But I don't want to be a doormat. He says the same things and worse to me!” you might say. I realize that and it doesn't make logical sense, however, you will find the less often you engage in these "unprofitable" discussions, the less often they will happen. Your husband will start to notice a change in you.
Let's look at Ephesians 4:29 (Amplified)
Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God's favor) to those who hear it.
So you need to always line up what comes out of your mouth with what the bible says. Is what is coming out of your mouth beneficial to your husband? Will it help his spiritual progress? Does it give blessings and grace? If not, it should not be said to him or about him.
© 2011 Michelle Serna
